The hardest thing for a healer?
Well, every healer is an individual. So there could be as many answers as facilitators.
For some it maybe the ability too just be a witness, and let what happens happen. I have discussed this in other articles and my books on healing available at Amazon.com.
As a “healer” is seen in reconnective style healing (RH), the term healer maybe misleading. Many prefer the term facilitator; I prefer witness right now. However, for lack of vocabulary all these terms may be used.
This vocabulary discussion is not just technical. Once we define something we limit our thinking, or we at least express a limit in our understanding of the object named. Deepak Chopra wrote what limits mortals first and last are labels, names, and definitions.
So what happens when you are named a healer. When someone is not healed, then what are you? Because someone is still sick or injured, you must see yourself as a failure, and your failure brings the patient’s suffering on your shoulder.
Here is what is the hardest thing for me and other care givers, at least the ones who care.
There are many sleepless nights thinking what I could have done or done better.
How do you get past the limits that we place on ourselves by definitions?
The hard part is finding the place before there are labels. The ancient Chinese called this entering into tranquility. The Native Americans called it entering into silence.
To the extent possible do your practice without carrying words around with you. Just be; be the witness. Limits are lifted.
Deepak Chopra gave an interesting exercise related to this. After being totally blind folded have a friend feed you different slices of fruits. (It is important not to know the different fruits that will or may be used.) Without knowing what it is just taste it. You will experience a festival of flavors and textures that you have not before realized were there.
Why? You have entered a place before labels, a place of undistracted knowing, tranquility, silence. This place is without named expectations. The fruit is free of your labels to be what it is. You are the innocent witness.
Surely “innocent witness” is a limiting naming in some ways. But this is a move in the right direction. It is a move toward pure being. (That “pure being” is a liable. And so it goes. Closer and closer to a place before words.)
This nebulous innocence state is the hardest thing for me in metaphysical healing arts.
Except you become as a little child, you shall not enter the art that is healing. Maybe you will enter some sort of science, physical or metaphysical. But you will not enter the art.